After this whole Drew situation unfolded, I went on Hinge again to start swiping with new guys and I ended up going on a date with this one guy whom I shall call Sam.
It honestly wasn't great, Sam didn't have a very good personality and I just found it really hard to vibe with him because of the way he was also talking to the service staff at the restaurant we were at, it was really curt and just overall quite rude. He wasn't very nice to chat with while we were at the restaurant and it felt like he wasn't very interested to listen to what I was saying most of the time.
We did end up going to his place after the date because he lives very close by, didn't do anything because I was just really not attracted to him at all, so we just chilled on his sofa and he did try and get a bit touchy by resting his head on my arms, while he was scrolling through his Instagram, Telegram and Hinge apps, talking to the guys there.
It was really weird.
But I just watched him chat with everyone and then he showed me his schedule for the week and it was just full of dates, he has a date everyday for the entire week, with a different guy! At this point, I started to realize that he saw this date very differently, I had simply been there to help him kill time, because he stays alone and it gets lonely, so he fills that void by meeting and inviting different guys over everyday.
I usually try not to talk about past dates with current dates because it just feels weird, but after seeing the way Sam approaches his dates, I just really wanted to rant about Drew, so I shared the story about Drew with him. He was actually quite attentive as I was sharing this story with him and it felt really nice to be able to rant, Sam told me how Drew is giving a lot of red flag vibes with the hiding and lying, and told me I should just have an open conversation about things, which is actually quite different from he advise other friends have given me, which is to just drop Drew completely and move on.
Sigh, anyways, I eventually left his place at around 11pm, which is really late and we really didn't do much, most of our time was just spend with him replying to the plethora of guys he was chatting with on the dating app.... and of course my rant about Drew. I didn't bother to contact him after I left his place, kinda didn't see the point, although he did tell me I was invited to boardgame night with the rest of his friends this Friday at his place. I told him I had to go feed my friend's dog, which may sound like a badly made up excuse, but is actually true.
I also reached out to Billy, the gaslighter, today, because even though things did became really weird at the end, I felt like we really did have a good connection at the start and I just wanted to try and explore that again.
Well, he actually replied back to me and we had an amicable conversation, he told me how things felt weird at the end and asked what had happened that made it weird, I didn't say it was because he was being super weird but told him it was probably me who made it weird (even though it was really him), I send him a really really long text to explain, which is a bit much I feel.
But at the end , he told me he has no desire to rekindle what we may have had because he is already in a committed relationship with someone.
He managed to find a partner within one month, that's crazy fast. I have to admit, a part of me felt like this was such a missed opportunity, if I hadn't committed to visiting Korea with Drew, I wouldn't have felt obligated to continue seeing him until the trip was over, we would have probably stopped seeing one another after our fourth date, and I would have probably been able to shift my focus to Billy instead at that time, but because of that damn Korea trip, I remained in contact with Drew instead of Billy, hoping I could work something out with Drew, but as we know now, nothing came out of it and I am still being blocked by Drew from seeing any of his Insta-stories.
I chose something so unstable over something that could've been stable and this decision is going to haunt me for a while. I will say that I am very happy to have reached out to Billy and resolve any hard feelings that had been had between us, but we did not choose to follow each other again on Instagram and instead just wished each other well, which I think is for the best as well.
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