Officially done with Drew and with dating...until next year maybe.

I have finally decided to call things off with Drew after he blocked me from seeing his stories again over the weekend while he is currently on what I am assuming is a Bali trip with a date... maybe? 

I had already decided in my mind that we were never going to work out after our Korea trip together, so I hadn't really initiated any more dates with him since we came back, and neither did he. The last time we texted was on Tuesday, I still make it a point to reply to his messages within the day, Drew on the other hand has not replied back to me since then, so it is safe to assume that interest on both side have started to dwindled since then, he has been a huge fucking disappointment during and after the trip. 

This whole blocking and unblocking thing is just....weird, so when I noticed that last night as I was just scrolling through his profile, that he had done it yet again, it was honestly a bit triggering because I don't like how he feels the need to have to constantly hide things from me, and how comfortable he has gotten with it, this is the third or fourth time that has has blocked me. 

He has this habit of lying, he shared me with how he lied to his Mum about leaving Korea on the same day as her when in reality, he had taken a bus ride back to Seoul right after his Mum checked-in to the departure hall because he was gonna stay a week longer (that I had joined him but then this fucker ditched me for half the trip), he also lied to his bosses about how his flight got delayed so he couldn't come into work the next day, even though he was the one who had booked the red eye on purpose to maximize his time in Korea (but didn't bother to try and maximize his time with me)

The flag just kept getting redder and redder the longer I know him.

Back then, I thought it was funny and would laugh with him, but that was because he was not lying to me, if he could lie so easily to his Mum and his Bosses, and was so proud of it, of course he is also capable of doing that to me, and he did! 

He may not have outrightly lied to me with this recent happenings, but blocking me from seeing his stories to shape a specific narrative in my mind about what he was doing, withholding certain information, and using that lack of information to lead me to assumptions that weren't true. That is lying with extra steps of manipulation, and it is actually insane when I think about it. All the stories he told me about his exes and how they were the problem, I now honestly find it hard to believe that he is actually completely innocent in all of them.

I kept the text that I send to him very civil, told him I have felt us getting more and more distant ever since the trip, and that what we had has probably come to a natural end, I wished him the best yada yada. I had originally wanted to wish him a fun trip in Bali, just to throw him off a little as a final jab, but decided I didn't want to be so mean spirited about it because I just want to end whatever we have amicably.

With this, I think it is also time for me to just take a break from online dating, it has been extremely exhausting emotionally to be meeting so many people with the intention to find a partner, but then have none of them work out in the end. The depression that came with it was the last thing I was expecting, but nonetheless, it was still nice to have finally experienced how it is like to be dating, even though I haven't really found someone that I genuinely developed actual, healthy feelings for yet.

Hopefully 2026 will be much better and I can actually find a partner organically offline and not online~!

Update 8/12 :

He replied back and we have managed to end things amicably, I appreciate being able to gain closure from him so that is a win for my mental health.


He still has me blocked from seeing his stories though, and apparently, that Bali trip is a company trip, which makes me question even more why he feels the need to hide it from me, it's just really really weird, 

Had to run through this with ChatGPT to see what the AI thought and it offered me a point of view that sounded like it made a lot of sense...

He claimed he was swamped with work, that's why he didn't contact me for the past week, but then he is posting stories of himself in Bali for a getaway trip with his colleagues (and I have been blocked from seeing any of this), that doesn't scream "too busy to text back", if you have time to go for a trip to Bali, that means you have time to reply to my messages, be it on the ferry on the way over, or in the hotel room at night before you go to sleep, which is something you could have done when you were still in Singapore as well, there is always time to reply back because not being able to find anytime in a week to text back is just bullshit, the only question is whether you are willing to allocate that time to reply back or not, or are you gonna use that time to do other stuff, he has clearly stopped putting any effort to text back and the "too busy with work" excuse is just flimsy at best. 

Anyways, my petty ass is also just gonna block him from seeing any of my stories from now on, until he decides to unblock me.

That being said, he was a super fun guy and I genuinely did have a good time whenever we went on our dates, but he is definitely not an ideal long term partner that's for sure, I have never felt comfortable really opening up to him like I did with Zo, and in that regard, I think he wasn't never able to fulfill that emotional reliance that I would have liked in a partner. I have can add new red flags that I do not want to find in the next person I do go out with, plus he also wasn't very cheap to date and I need to save money for my gym membership and also future renovation.

Please send me someone who is low maintenance and consistent the next time around, hopefully third time will be the charm and the third person I meet will have the qualities that I seek.



Music that will remind me of this period, from the Korea tip to this "break-up, calling things off" moment

I thought it will be Taylor Swift's latest album, but I have been listening to that so much that I don't thin it will reginite this specific memory when I revisit it many months or even years from now, so I think the one music that will remind me of this period will probably be...

Olivia Dean - So Easy (To Fall in Love)