I have recently met someone new on Hinge, whom I shall refer to as Drew, and we have been going out on a few dates, we hadn't discuss about being exclusive and are still in the midst of trying to know one another.
Yesterday, I had a date with Drew, and when Billy asked me if I had any plans, I wasn't too comfortable telling him I was going on a date, so I just told him very vaguely that I was gonna meet up with someone for lunch.
So the date is going on and I had a good time with Drew, in the midst of it, Billy messages me and jokingly ask me how the "date" is going, I didn't reply immediately because I was still hanging out with Drew, it was only after the date was over did I get back to Billy, and I told him it went well, to which he went...
"So it really is a date?"
"Hello!"
... I replied to that with "Hahaha, you guessed it right!", and he proceeded to react to my message with a thumbs up emoji, since he hadn't ask me anything else, I kinda just left it at that.
When I "react" to someone's message without actually replying to it with any text, it usually means the conversation has come to an end, but I also don't want to leave you on read, so I will just give you a reaction instead to not be rude, I assumed that is like a universal understanding and thought it was probably what Billy meant. I honestly thought he was probably uncomfortable continuing the conversation with me after finding out that I was going on dates with someone else, and as such, decided to just stop trying to initiate any further conversation with me.
Anyways, fast forward to an hour or 2 later, I decided to post some photos of the date on my insta-stories and he replies to one of them almost immediately with...
"The date must have went well!"
... I replied and told him it was interesting, and he then replies to that message with...
"I am getting the vibe that you aren't really interested in talking to me anymore"
... and that completely threw me off!
He told me that he felt like the whole conversation between us is now giving him an odd vibe with the "sudden silence" and "change in tone", and I got even more fucking confused because what sudden silence and change in tone are you talking about? I asked him what he meant by sudden silence because what the fuck are you talking about? He then told me he felt like I wasn't interested to share with him too much about my date and took that as a sign that I was not interested in talking anymore,
I explained to him that it was because I was worried he would be uncomfortable hearing me talk about my other hinge date, it just feels weird to talk to a Hinge match about my date with another Hinge match, that is like going to a job interview and going into detail about your other interviews at other companies, it's just weird, and then he goes...
"It's okay bro, we are not even together, so I totally understand you going on dates. You don't owe me any explanation and you are not obligated to share the details of your dates with me."
HUH!?!?!?!
WHERE THE FUCK WAS THIS LOGIC LIKE 1 MINUTE AGO THEN??
YOU WERE THE ONE WHO BROUGHT IT UP!
... holy fucking shit. I was so fucking confused the entire fucking time I was texting with him, I told him I enjoyed talking to him and had hoped we could just continue chatting as per normal and maybe still meet up for the movie we had intended to watch together, and he replied with...
"I am all up for that, but it feels weird right now and I don't know what is going on with this chat anymore"
You made things weird and now you are telling me it feels weird, well no shit sherlock!
When I was trying to "explain myself" to him, it honestly started to feel really weird because I have only known him for less than a week, and we have only started to properly chat for like the past 2 days, I literally do not owe you an explanation.
But I did and then he just replied with...
"ok ok"
... and then wishes me goodnight, so I did the same and thought that was probably gonna be the end of our interaction, but he sends me a good morning message in the late morning, so I replied back and we had a bit of an exchange, but the rapport and chemistry has completely disappeared.
NOW it feels weird to me.
I really do not know what to talk about with him anymore and I really have no interest to try and initiate any conversation with him as well, this is 100% on him for making it weird.
Update 29/10/25 :
Billy has decided to unfollow me and also removed me from his follower list on Instagram!
He had previously removed me from his "close friend" list for a while before adding me back into it again after we had that awkward conversation about how he felt like I wasn't interested to talk to him anymore, so I think he is someone who acts a bit impulsively.
With the "close friend" thing, taking me out and then adding me back into the list wouldn't notify me, I just happened to notice a few highlight stories of his were no longer showing up for me, so we can both just pretend he never did that, but unfollowing me and then removing me from his follower's list, that is a commitment that you cannot take back, and with that, he has now officially made it weird.
I was still thinking I could say Hi to him if I ever see him in real life, since we are in a similar line of work, the chances of us running into each other at a Tile Shop or something is a possibility, but with his recent decision to cut me off completely, it is just gonna be really awkward irl now.
